It is well documented that most of us fail at achieving our New Year’s resolutions.
So much so, that the whole idea of resolutions has become a bit of a cliche. When most people talk about them, they do so jokingly as they cram another piece of pie in their face at Christmas dinner (side note: this is still a very good joke).
One can look at the resolution failure rate one of two ways:
I am almost certainly going to fail at this, so why try?
Almost everyone is going to fail at this, so I only have to be better than a handful of folks to be a success.
If you are a fan of the first view, that’s fine. The math is on your side and I can’t really blame you. I will, however, point out that you are falling victim to a paradox.
Not having a resolution is safer. It feels like you cannot fail because, in fact, you can’t.
Of course you can’t really succeed either, other than by pure dumb luck.
I have to be careful here. I am fully aware this borderline sounds like some sort of “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” cheesiness.
Maybe it it even is a little cheesy.
But here’s the thing, cheesy is just a code word for jealous. A label used by someone too cowardly to share their own goals and dreams.
I have a very close friend who told me this week his resolution was to spend more time with those that he loves and that give him energy, rather than those that drain his energy.
That is one helluva good resolution.
If you tell a friend about your goal and they think it’s cheesy, don’t reconsider the resolution.
Reconsider your friends.
As for those that take the second view-the view that meeting a resolution is pretty difficult but ultimately worth attempting-they are all in on a little secret:
The bar is low and the pressure to succeed is virtually nonexistent, so you might as well enjoy the climb-no matter how far you actually get.
That, and the gym parking lot will be much less crowded come February.
Also. . .
A couple of my goals in 2017 are to consistently post on this blog once per week and to grow my mailing list, so I need your help.
If what you have been reading here has resonated with you in some meaningful way, it would mean the world to me if you would sign up to receive these posts in your inbox each time new material is created. You could also forward to a friend that might do the same.
Please call me out if a week goes by and you haven’t seen any new content.
Some goal-related recommendations:
- If you are looking for a really slick, robust goal tracking app, I highly recommend Strides.
- If you prefer something simple to track habits, you can’t go wrong with Productive.
- And if you just need something to track to-dos, the biggest and best is Asana (especially if you need to collaborate with teams), but MinimaList is amazing in its simplicity as well.
- Oh, and don’t forget the power of a great analog system.
Happy New Year!